Understanding self-judgement.

In its original form, judgement is intelligence that enables us to differentiate one thing from another e.g. I from other, milk from a cow, up and down, home and away, truth from false and so on; absolutely useful and completely necessary.

With that said, judgement is a capacity and intelligence that can turn against us. When this happens we begin labeling ourselves deficient and inadequate, we judge ourselves to be lacking.  We suffer because we believe our basic sense of value is a relative thing; that it is dependent on our appearance, status, wealth, skill, success etc. The sense of inadequacy and deficiency arises when we assess our own worth based on externalities.

When someone or something is more desirable than us, better than us, smarter than us, humbler than us, we reactively judge ourselves by mistakenly concluding that we are not enough. We feel worthless… We feel less than… Consequently, we experience ourselves to be lacking which is a contracted and painful state of being.

Fixed judgments are recurring patterns grounded in a narrative we tell ourselves about the world, what we are and who everyone else is because we have lost touch with our essential nature; we are not seeing reality clearly; we are not seeing ourselves for what we truly are.

With practice and understanding, we can begin to catch ourselves just before or after we negatively judge ourselves and others. To cease perpetuating this activity is possible! We can stop contracting into our patterned narratives about the world, what we are, and who everyone else is. In deep states of realization, we simply abide as we are in effortless embrace.

Learn more about the inner-critic and how to overcome it

Recommended book: Soul without shame by Byron Brown

 

This article is an excerpt from the e-book The Art of Evolution written by Wazee. To receive it in full click here.

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